Hey there friend! I’m Alexandria, and I’ve found home in the mountains of WA. Like you, I personally thrive and feel so fulfilled in small groups, intentional moments, and love photos to remember days by.
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Should I elope or have a big wedding? That’s a big question and a very important one. Big weddings are fun, but they aren’t for everyone! I’m of the opinion so many people would be happier with a small wedding, however, mainstream media and familial pressures don’t always allow us to feel like we can choose something different. I’ve seen so many couples of larger weddings say about 3 months out “I just want this day done and over with!” and have even felt this myself.
There’s a ton of pressure involved with throwing a big party where you are the host, and the guests of honor. Keep reading if you don’t want to experience this and are trying to decide if an elopement or small wedding is right for you! My goal is to help you choose the experience that will allow you to craft something meaningful and get you excited for your wedding day!
May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. – Nelson Mandela
What’s the difference?
You’re probably familiar with an old-school version of elopements, where a couple spontaneously runs away to secretly get married. Click here to read more in-depth about the modern approach to elopements- they are not just for the courthouse and don’t have to be done in secret.
But, that’s not the only way! You can plan an incredible elopement where you adventure or do something you’ve never done before for your one-of-a-kind wedding day. It will be intentionally planned because it will be exactly what you want to do to celebrate your marriage!
For example, In Washington, there are SO many things to do! Check out my resource here for different elopement timeline examples for couples, and couples with close friends and family!
|Elopements/Small Weddings are:||Big Weddings are:|
|No longer a Vegas-bound spontaneous courthouse, but a chance to do something you’ve never done or visit a place that means the world to you.|
-OR- A chance to do something unique or a more traditional timeline on a small scale
|Typically more traditional, in a church|
|>30 people or just the couple||Groups from 31 – 300 people|
|Intentionally planned for the couple||Planned for guests|
|Options for more alone time and intentional activities||Don’t usually give you alone time|
|One-of-a-kind day that doesn’t have to follow a perfect timeline.||Usually follow a pre-set plan for the day|
|Planned anywhere from 3 months to 1 year out.||Planned anywhere from 1-2 years out|
***Think back to all your favorite TV shows where you see a small wedding and it just gives you all the feels. There’s a reason tv shows always shift from a big wedding to a small one with just the main characters of a show (How I Met Your Mother, New Girl, Modern Family, Gilmore Girls- Luke and Lorelai in the Fall episode, The Office, Big Bang Theory, etc ….just saying…) because the relationship is the most important thing. There is SO much love and SO much emotion when you see these play out!
If you’ve decided to have an elopement or small wedding, check out my resource on ways to involve friends and family in your elopement day or later on!
In my personal opinion, small is always better.
Just because all you see are large weddings, doesn’t mean your small wedding is any less special and shouldn’t be celebrated as such. It’s probably going to be more special because you’re taking away all the unnecessary things and intentionally choosing different things to do that you’ll remember and actually have a beautiful day. You don’t need a big wedding to have a great marriage. As long as you have someone by your side you can’t live without, that’s the most important thing 🙂
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This is such a great read for couples planning their wedding day! I love it!
So much amazing information for couples!!! LOVE IT!
Getting married definitely isn’t a one size fits all approach. Thanks for bringing this issue to light!
Super useful process to go through and questions to ask yourself to find out which size of celebration you’re leaning towards. Thanks for sharing!
Excellent advice for future wedding couples! I’m definitely a fan of smaller weddings and elopements!
Such useful advice, with pros and cons for each thing. Really useful info here!
It’s so important for couples to really think about all these points. Thank you for putting this together ?
Oh my heart! Elopements and intimate weddings take definitely special personality! Great things to consider for sure!
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